Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Morality and The Gentleman

         
Morality and the gentleman go hand in hand. A word that used to be honored. Now it is redefined, and the original definition lost in a pile of what society calls a "man". Fortunately, there are real men out there. Real men not defined by me, but defined by their actions. Men who open doors for people. Men who say "thank you" and "have a nice day". Men who show respect to women, even those who don't deserve it. These aren't the only things that define a gentleman.

According to Dictionary.com, behaving like a gentleman means you're a well-mannered, civilized, educated, and sensitive man. So to maintain this classification you must have manners, please and thank you. You must be educated. This doesn't mean you have to be a doctor. It does mean you should be aware of your community, and up-to-date on current events. You should be civilized, meaning you hold a state of being culturally advanced. Meaning he isn't racist, and he can control his negative feelings. Lastly, a gentleman is defined as being sensitive. This doesn't mean you cry every time a leaf falls. Sensitive meaning you can detect slight differences in your environment and relationships. These characteristics should be the epitome of a man. Unfortunately, they aren't. Why?

One reason is because of what women want in men. According to both eHarmony and AskMen.com, none of the things women want are on that list of gentleman qualities. They want laughs. They want looks. They want confidence. They want to know their man is going to be successful. This is all great, but manners, education, being civilized, and sensitive aren't on these lists. This leaves most relationships offering only punishment for being a dog with no reward for being a gentleman. A horrible plight for the man with tact.

Hang in there gentlemen, and don't look down on the pigs please. As William Lyon Phelps, a famous America author and scholar, said, "the final test of a gentleman is his respect for those who can be of no possible service to him." Being a gentlemen doesn't make you better it builds a better society. This is just the opinion of one man.
       
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