Friday, June 13, 2014

Let's Forgive.

     
  Forgive me. It's a phrase people don't use as often as they used to. What does forgive really mean? The average definition is to stop feeling angry at or with someone. Kind of like getting over things or letting things go. People throw the word around a lot, but are we actually forgiving the person?
          According to Psychology Today there are seven "rules" to forgiveness. I am not going to go over all of them just a few.
          Now that we know anger has a lot to do with forgiveness, we must know that it is the key to forgiving. When you feel that anger rising calm yourself. Use meditation, breathing, taking walks, or whatever else works for you.
          Forgiving is not forgetting. People that receive serious traumas in their lives never forget these things. They forgive so that the anger doesn't kill them. They forgive so that they can keep on living a normal life.
           Forgiveness isn't about the gesture being accepted. Forgiveness is for the person forgiving. You don't even have to express your forgiveness to that person. If they come to you with a sincere apology and you can't accept it, then you probably haven't forgiven that person fully. If you do then you have expressed your forgiveness to that person whether they accept it or not.
           Forgiveness is something we need to exercise in this country. A society's inability to forgive can be the root cause of a lot of violence, as anger is one of the main fuels for violence. Violence is becoming more common in our country, and we need to do all we can to stop it from taking over our society. Practicing forgiveness is one step in the right direction. I will write another step tomorrow. This is just the opinion of one man.

The article from Psychology Today is at the link below.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/do-the-right-thing/201403/7-rules-forgiveness